When you find yourself single in your mid to late 30s or 40s and wanting babies, it can generate feelings of anxiety, mainly caused by the fear of missing out on motherhood.

One of the options available in this situation is deciding to embark on the journey towards solo motherhood. This can be a difficult decision to make and often requires a period of grieving for the loss of starting a family in a partnership.

Trying to conceive without a partner can be challenging and you might experience set backs, disappointment and loneliness. There are a variety of ways to cope with all of this and ensure that you are feeling strong in order to continue towards your goal.

I had a period of about 3 years where missing out on motherhood was at the forefront of my mind. I looked for ways to best deal with it. The approach that worked best for me was ensuring that I was living my best life and not putting everything on hold whilst deciding whether to embark on this path as well as throughout my fertility treatment.

I have detailed 3 techniques that I have been introduced to more recently that I would recommend if you are looking for good practical coping mechanisms.

 

1) Meditation

Try Alice Rose’s 10 day meditation course. The course is perfect if you’re:

  • feeling stuck or left behind
  • feeling scared you’ll never have the baby you’re trying for
  • struggling with anger, jealousy, sadness or any other feeling
  • ready to start living your life again and reconnect to YOU!

These were 100% things that I was feeling when I was considering solo motherhood. It seemed that all my friends were married and had babies and I didn’t even have a boyfriend. I was scared I was going to miss out on motherhood altogether because I was getting ever older and still remained single. Jealousy was an emotion I struggled with, comparing myself to others and feeling like I had failed.

If meditation is your thing, then this course is for you. If you’ve never tried it before Alice offers a free 5 minute reset meditation.

2) Tapping

Sarah Holland offers a cutting edge approach to stress reduction and emotional healing called EFT (or Emotional Freedom Techniques). It takes wisdom from the ancient Chinese meridian system alongside modern day psychology. This technique is used to effectively resolve emotional issues such as anxiety, worry, fear and anger to name just a few.

It’s easy to learn and use, and it usually brings quick, long lasting and positive results to even the most deep seated and complex emotional issues.

Sarah offers a free Fertility EFT Starter Kit that you can check out here.

3) Cleaning

If you’ve not got onboard with the Instagram phenomenon that is Mrs Hinch, head straight over to her page and check her out. Mrs Hinch uses cleaning as a method to deal with anxiety. She says it stops her worrying and keeps her calm.

I have tried out some of her cleaning and organising recommendations recently and it certainly is a great calming strategy. It can be used to take your mind off something that is stressing you out. The added bonus is your house starts looking super sparkly. Go and check out Mrs Hinch to see what I’m talking about and get some hints and tips of where to start!

 

If you’ve tried any other techniques that have really worked for you I’d love to hear about them in the comments.

For further support on your fertility journey, check out The Stork and I online coaching courses.

 

 

Photo by Heidi Sandstrom. on Unsplash


Mel Johnson

Founder of The Stork and I, following my path to solo motherhood.

2 Comments

Juanita Martinez · April 14, 2019 at 11:40 pm

Your story was really Touching. I was reading too many blogs of this for helping my sister. And i will recommend this. You as an expert in this matter what think about this: http://bit.ly/2DhApNv

    Mel Johnson · April 16, 2019 at 8:09 pm

    I can’t access the link you shared.

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